Before I share some of my friend who is in the UK, and George Boyle’s blog post here about “judging others,” we all know in the addiction/recovery arena and in the literary arena we see people being unkind or judging others’ recovery choices, advocacy or when we have published our books readers or reviewers can be unkind. It may be in a comment on our blog or, again, in leaving a book review. We need to share and speak out when others have No Understanding or Empathy for others Mental and Emotional Challenges …
My mom raised me to be “KIND” wth my “WORDS” as always said: “If you can’t say something “kind” or “corrective”? Then Don’t Say Anything at ALL.”
I think everyone should go back to this motherly advice. Doesn’t it take less energy to be positive or kind than it does to be hurtful or negative? I think so.
So my hope is everyone who reads this post will absorb some of the lessons and feelings in this post. Again, “Kindness is Golden”…OH, And? “Never Judge a Book By It’s Cover Alone.”
#NoJudgment … Mental Health Awareness … By George T. Boyle.
What do I mean by this?
I realize that within my blogs and possibly my book there are typos, there are grammar errors, etc.
And yet does this put you off from reading the content and understanding its meanings?
In some instances, it is enough of a reason for some people to not even open the book when its cover displays this.
Have you ever thought that maybe it may be the reason an author has done this to grab your attention to it, or maybe that the author or writer is so overwhelmed by other things that they will love someone to come and give support to the amazing content and work they are trying to achieve and the message I am putting out there to the world within my words in conscious thought flow.
We as humans often react in fear and give excuses in the words with people to actually engage with them in positive ways.
We create words and content which can push people away in the words we use, then we only react to the words we use, and then we only get the outcome we create from the words and thoughts we use to each other.
I love my amazing friend for prompting me to write this because all I hear in words at times are excuses for interaction which follows a reaction of no interaction then an action of no interaction or communication.
And I become frustrated at this and asked them what they are doing to themselves or to what sort of outcome they are looking for from life when they are only creating blocks in thought which are then being communicated in words, creating that action and reaction from the person creating the disempowering thought-forms.
I was having a bad day, as I was awaiting a tooth pulled out and it’s been creating enough distraction in thoughts as well as weird anxiety or energy that day, so I reached out to my friend. This friend didn’t focus on the words I was expressing or wasn’t compassionate in response to say “hey, how can I make your day better?”
The communication went to crap because my friend wasn’t focusing on how to create a positive open communication with me and they then made a decision to close communication because they reacted with the excuse of judgment and words which were creating more stress and anxiety within me which created a conversation flow off of nothing and a ZERO outcome.
Why did this happen?
Because that person didn’t react towards the other person with compassion any empathy, and love, only with a thought flow and reaction and in words of blaming the other person for reaching out to them, and used words to close down the conversation and making ME the blame for having a bad mental health day.
So what can we do to ensure when someone says: “they’re having a bad day we can react in a way toward them with words that are focused on helping them get through that.
Rather than judging them for them contacting you, for someone trying to reach out to them because they were having a bad day, they weren’t coping well with there mental health that day and then making the conversation about you and how the person who had reached out for support was wrong for doing so at that moment. Just looking to ease the anxiety of the other person and open conversation to create love in the form of communication.
“The more we release the fear and judgment around our lives we end mental health because we react to each other with unconditional love and compassion.”
We don’t read a book by its cover alone …
We read of the content within it.
Yet if you are only looking for an excuse to judge a book my book by its cover? Then you are not really taking the time to read it, nor making the effort or focus to find out what is within it. Your only making an excuse in your own thoughts because that book created a negative thought about it as to open it up or delve inside and lose your fear in loving the book.
How can we reframe the way we think and react towards other people?
THE ANSWER Can be Found by going over to Visit George’s Blog and finishing reading how this Story Ends Right Here: By George T. Boyle.
For many of us who have mental health challenges, we look to other avenues and platforms to share our experiences and day to day challenges with our mental health. Some ways I and George accomplish this are through our books our writings and blog posts. Advocacy and sharing one’s story and experiences does help shatter stigma, and it lets others know who suffer that they are not alone.
I;’m a Psychologist, and Blogger. I have encountered similar reactions when reaching out to someone. Their responses used to baffle me, until I realized, that some don’t listen to what you are conveying, and how you are feeling at the moment. Instead, they are attempting to formulate a response totally foreign from what you were asking. Some become, ” wannabe therapist” as they attempt to assist you. In turn, their responses become hurtful, ergo, putting blame on your suffering, without actually recognizing, that your dilemma has nothing to do with your persona, but rather, an event you were not responsible for. Enjoyed your post. Blessings
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I SO Agree with you. When we tend to stay “In Self and Ego” we tend to be more critical and non-understanding. AND? It can come from family members as well. My family has no understanding of my mental health challenges. Sad, but they act like, “Out of Sight out of MIND and need not have to interact nor accept my disabilities. Being aware and having supportive friends like YOU and many are who I get my support from! xoxo Thanks for shring your comments with me. CAT
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There are many like CAT in the literary arena who may have Mental and Emotional Health challenges and WHY I am resharing my post from my recovery blog here too! Meet Author, George Boyal who helps us learn, the need to share awareness and “Kindness” to those who DO … Catherine xoxo