Special Article Share 4 Having a Happy Recovery Valentine’s Day By “Know The Odds” …Great Resource Site!

HAPPY VALENTINES FRIENDS! CAT

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CONTINUING RECOVERY ON VALENTINE’S DAY

Valentine’s Day is here! So how about using this holiday to bring the family together while continuing to recover from the effects of problem gambling.  In this article, you’ll find some ways to bring fresh ideas and rebuild relationships shared with a loved one in recovery from problem gambling.

Problem Gambling And Family

The effects of problem gambling can span to affect every significant relationship in the life of the gambler.  The people closest to the one struggling with problem gambling are affected the most.  The people closest tend to be parents, spouses, and children.  Although people struggling with problem gambling usually have the best intentions while gambling, the damage can feel overwhelming.

Relationships can be repaired.  Recovery is possible.  Therefore, change is possible, and, with the right help, the partnership can come out stronger on the other side.

Focusing On Family

Holidays and anniversaries are important to keep the family’s connection strong.  These special days give reason to stop the regularities of routine and the hustle and bustle of life.  They offer devoted time to stop and connect with those who are important.  Valentine’s Day is one of those days.

Many people laugh at holidays like Valentine’s Day, but, as silly as it may be, it is a day to devote time to loved ones.  What can be more important than that?

For families recovering from the consequences of a loved one’s struggle with problem gambling, Valentine’s Day can be seen as a great day to focus on the love of family.  Therefore, it’s a day to remember why rebuilding relationships are so important, and a way to regain strength to continue on the family’s path to recovery from problem gambling.

Family Focused Fun

Many people try to go and buy things to bring joy to loved ones.  Flowers, stuffed animals, and colorful cards are great ways to put a smile on a person’s face, but there are other ways. Here are a few ways to spend time focusing on family.

Board game night can be a great way to bring some fun to the family.  Choosing games that are relaxing, but fun for the whole family can be an exciting way to reconnect with everyone.  Some games can include Scrabble, Trivial Pursuit, Sorry or Scategories. All these are examples of fun games to play together with the family.  Make sure to choose games that won’t act as triggers for the loved one in recovery for problem gambling and focus on having fun together.

Family outing together can be a great way to have fun.  There are many family outings that don’t need to cost much or any money.  Simple ideas like going for a hike or bike ride together, visiting a local museum or library together, or participating in a night of bowling are all ways to enjoy low-cost or free activities together.  Not only are family outings are great ways to step out of the home, but also great ways to create new memories together.

Volunteering is a great way to get the family together.
There are so many ways to give back to the community or volunteer.  You could help a neighbor with their yard, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or spend time at a senior center.  Whatever you choose, giving back will bring up the spirits of the family.  Volunteering together is a great way to rebuild the family while improving the well-being of the community.

Helpful Resources

Finally, wherever you and your family are on the path to recovery from problem gambling, support is always available.  Please reach out to your local Problem Gambling Resource Center by visiting New York Problem Gambling-Help or The National Council on Problem Gambling… 

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Happy Sober, Clean, Bet Free Holiday Article Share Series. Were Getting Through Holidays Together!

Hello, And Welcome Recovery Friends and Visitors,

 

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Since this year for me has a been a bit cray – cray with co-writing a memoir with another, also book promoting for authors, advocating and recovery article writing, and guest blogging much more, I decided to do a little something different this year on my recovery blog. Most know I am passionate and adamant about being around through the Christmas and New Year holiday for those who may be struggling, need more support or feel tempted to stray maintaining recovery.

It can be a “risky” and tricky time for holiday parties, booze, desperate gambling due to lack of money for gifts, and party time means more recreational drugs around. Sad, but it is true. So I thought, why not share many Holiday articles with a mix of a few of my own this year and we help one another as a collective!

I have had some awesome guest recovery authors and articles this year and decided to share a few of them, along with some new ones I have permission to share as we all need support from as many people and places as we can get. So I will begin with an article I just read that will help with ideas of staying safe over the holidays on Sober Recovery!

*Three Reasons To Connect With A Recovery Community Through Holiday Time by  Toshia Humphries *

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The holiday season is upon us. Many are traveling to be with family while countless others gather with friends and significant others to celebrate the festive time of year. However, not everyone has a picturesque holiday experience.

The forces that could pull you into relapse tend to get stronger around the end of the year when you’re likely to reflect on what you’ve accomplished and reconvened with people who likely saw you during your addicted past. Now more than ever, it’s important to build up a support network to ensure you stick to your commitment.

Here are three reasons why you need to connect with a recovery community during the holidays.

1. Prevents isolation.

Staying connected to the recovery community can prevent isolation which is typically a precursor to relapse. Isolation can also worsen symptoms of any dual diagnosis such as depression, anxiety, and other mood or personality disorders. All of these can escalate to relapse, accidental overdose or even suicide.

2. Provides a sense of family.

Staying in touch with the recovery community allows for a substitute family experience if family holidays are not possible due to either death, distance, or estranged. And, if the family is an option, the family dynamics make relapse more probably, the recovery community can act as a chosen family; one that is ideally far more supportive and less dysfunctional.

The recovery community is also equally as necessary for those who have families and enjoy being around them. In fact, possibly more so, as it is easy for those individuals to forget they need the recovery community or recovery itself. Often, these individuals begin to think that sobriety alone is enough—it’s not.

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3. Keeps you active in recovery during the holidays.

Staying connected to the recovery community keeps you active in your recovery throughout the holiday season. It provides consistency and gentle reminders that relapse has nothing to do with having a dysfunctional family. It has to do with you. And, if you were an active addict with a picturesque family, then you could easily be in relapse with the same.

The key to getting through the holiday season is not to lose sight of your recovery. Staying connected to your recovery community keeps you plugged into that recovery process, keeps you accountable and allows you to do the same for others. Most importantly, it serves as prevention against relapse and provides everyone with a sense of family, even if they don’t have one of their own.

For these reasons and more, staying connected to the recovery community throughout the holidays is a life-saving choice for everyone. Wishing you all a happy and safe recovery throughout the holiday season!

~ Author/Advocate, Catherine Townsend-Lyon ~

 

 

 

“Having A Heart Of Gratitude & Believing In A Power Greater Than Ourselves Can Restore Us In RECOVERY!”


“Do you believe in a power great than yourself in your Recovery? Do you have Gratitude in your Recovery? Tell me about it!”

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“When we begin our recovery journey, we come to recovery very broken and spiritually drained. I know I was when I finally got a foothold into my long-term recovery.  We begin to do the inside recovery work of all our character defects, habits and behaviors.  It’s a hard thing to do to finally look in the mirror and say to yourself,  “I’m a very sick person within addiction.”  But as we do the work, we begin to transform ourselves back, and many times, back to a better person then when we were sick within addiction.”
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For myself, I could not have made it this far within my recovery without a whole lot of  “GRATITUDE” and not have made it without “Believing in a Power Greater than myself.” For me? That is the Grace of God.

I have always believed in him, but when we are filled with guilt, shame and embarrassment, we can not imagine our HP still caring or loving us within all the sick drama of addiction. Drama is also a good word to use about how addiction had made all of the area’s in our lives so unmanageable. That is what all addictions do. They invade all area’s of your life.


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“So what is gratitude? The very definition is: “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.”  OK, now what does it mean in a biblical sense? What does our Higher Power/God say about gratitude?”

Thankfulness is a prominent Bible theme. First Thessalonians 5:16-18 says, “Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” Did you catch that? Give thanks in all circumstances. Thankfulness should be a way of life for us, naturally flowing from our hearts and mouths.”
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Every addict deserves a second chance in life.  God sent his son to die on the cross of Calvary to give each of us that as a gift of Gratitude and Change that each one of us in recovery are worthy of!!  That is why I am Celebrating my recovery along with many millions of others for National Recovery month.
Lets celebrate the changes we have made in our lives through recovery, and by believing in that greater power that gives us our strength and humbleness in our recovery. To be  there for others by being of recovery service and “paying it forward” to those who are new or having a tough go in their recovery.
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That’s what I feel about gratitude, and having thankfulness. I can tell you all honestly, that is where your peace and serenity is going to come from within your recovery journey. When you start doing the work needed, using the tools of what you learn to stay in recovery, your recovery will take off to higher places you could never imagine. It did for me. And it will for too.

“JUST BELIEVE” .. .. .. ..

 

Catherine Townsend-Lyon, Author & Recovery Advocate of Gambling Addiction

 

 

Celebrate Recovery! My Girls Are At It Again With A New Guest Recovery Article By: Author Alyssa Craig.

Hello and Welcome Recovery Friends,

 

I hope your 4th of July weekend was FABULOUS! Mine was pretty quite. But my recovery girls Rachel and Alyssa were at it again with another helpful Recovery Article Share for all of us. I feel it is important to have many insights and views about recovery. So I enjoy sharing many other authors views and articles here. Today Alyssa is Celebrating Recovery with us in this new Guest Post.
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Celebrating Addiction Recovery Victories in Healthy Ways
Author: Alyssa Craig

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Why Celebrate?
As humans, we celebrate milestones and accomplishments often, from birthdays to graduations. But why do we do it and how does it fit into addiction recovery? Develop an Attitude of Gratitude: Celebrations give us a chance to express gratitude for the things that are going well in life.

Appreciation: By giving appreciation and attention to our accomplishments, we can more deeply enjoy what we have achieved.

Honor Life: This is a concept that often takes a backseat during addiction. Remember to value life itself.

Recognition: Addiction recovery is difficult. Celebrations allow us and our loved ones to acknowledge our accomplishments and milestones.

Thank Support: Celebrations draw family and friends together for a happy purpose and when it comes to addiction recovery, it allows us to also celebrate having a solid support system.

Positivity: By giving focus to milestones, it helps to reinforce positive behavior and a positive attitude.

Self-Assessment: Milestones give us an opportunity for honest self-assessment. It gives us a chance to see how far we have come.

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Which Addiction Milestones Should Be Celebrated?
What may be a difficulty for one person may not be for another, so you will have to determine for yourself what constitutes a need for celebration. As a general guideline be sure to include the following in your celebrations:

  • A Day/Week/Month/Year of Sobriety: It is up to you how often you will celebrate, but these are easy milestones to select from. The one month milestone in particular is important as this is when withdrawal symptoms are worst. After the first month, cravings subside and addiction related physical changes improve significantly which can be a great psychological boost.

  • Returning to School or Work: Getting a new job or returning your focus to your education is a big deal, as these areas probably took a hit during your addiction.

  • Sustaining a Healthy Relationship: Family, friendships, and romantic relationships tend to suffer when a person is suffering from an addiction. If you have repaired or sustained a relationship that would not have previously been possible, that is worth celebrating.

    More Ways To Celebrate:
    Once you are ready to celebrate, you may want some suggestions. Here are some ways you can acknowledge the hard work you have done, the things you have overcome, all without a fear of relapse.

    Express Gratitude Daily: Celebrate each day with a dose of expression of gratitude. This might be a mental list, an entry in a gratitude journal, or writing a note of thanks to someone who has helped you.

    Clean, Sober & Gamble Free Party: One fear of a party is the presence of alcohol or drugs, but by planning your own party, you can control this. You will find your friends and family to be supportive and you will have a great time. Find great ways to replace old party habits with suggestions such as the ones listed here.

    Athletic Event: If you have worked on improving your physical health, this might be a great time to participate in an athletic event as a celebration of your stronger, healthier body and well-balanced recovery.

    Volunteering: Paying it forward is always a great way to celebrate your victories. Look for ways to help in your community or even with an addiction recovery program near you. It is likely someone could benefit from your knowledge of obstacles you have faced in recovery.

    Take a real Vacation: Travel is a great way to broaden your horizons, experience a new culture and get away from it all. Set a goal for yourself in your recovery and once you have reached it, reward yourself with a dream vacation.

    Treat Yourself: Practice self-love by creating a rewards system for different types of milestones. Think of what you would like to achieve and what you will get at each level. New outfits, a gadget you’ve been wanting, signing up for a class to learn a new hobby, or indulging in a little treat are all great ways to celebrate your efforts.
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Addiction recovery is a difficult, ongoing challenge and you deserve to celebrate your achievements and successes. Not only will it help reinforce a positive attitude and perspective, but you may also find a way to serve those around you, helping to build others up as you continue to progress.

Courtesy of Author, Alyssa Craig 🙂