WTF? “Simply Ridiculous” and Victims Are Being Traumatized All Over Again … Shame On MGM Resorts Owner of The Mandalay Bay and Their Share Holders!

WTF? “Simply Ridiculous” and Victims Are Being Traumatized All Over Again … Shame On MGM Resorts Owner of The Mandalay Bay and Their Share Holders!

“Looking At Both Sides”

I’m sure just about everyone around the world heard what took place a while back at a concert being held outside “The Mandalay Bay resort-casino.” October 2017 when a gunman opened fire on a crowd of concertgoers at the Route 91 Harvest music festival on the Las Vegas Strip in Nevada, leaving 58 people dead and 851 injured, courtesy of Yahoo News and originally appeared on abcnews.go.com …


“This is absolute gamesmanship. It’s outrageous. It’s just pouring gasoline on the fire of (the victims’) suffering,” Eglet said. “They are very distraught, very upset over this. MGM is trying to intimidate them.”  ~Lawyer Me. Eglet says for the Victims.

“Last week, MGM filed suit in federal court against 1,000 defendants who are victims of the shootings or other interested parties. The lawsuits are intended to be a self-protective, preemptive strike by MGM. The company says it is only suing people who have already sued MGM or notified it that they plan to do so. It isn’t asking for the shooting victims to pay it any money. Nevertheless, the move has predictably prompted widespread outrage and prompted calls on Twitter” to #BoycottMGM

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Does the SAFETY Act apply to a hotel?

The 2002 law is called the SAFETY Act (for “Support Antiterrorism by Fostering Effective Technologies”). Passed in the wake of 9/11, the intent was for the Department of Homeland Security to review security products and services for federal certification. If they received that certification, the law protects their providers from lawsuits in the event of a terrorist attack where those products are in use. It’s worth noting that MGM did have a security firm at the concert at the time of the shooting, and that security firm was certified under the SAFETY Act. 

Attorneys for the victims are as outraged about this lawsuit as you might expect. “Their theory is that this security company goes to D.H.S. and gets some type of certificate, and so now MGM is immune, and everybody in the future who hires the company is immune,” Craig Eiland, who represents many of the victims, told the Times. “It’s outrageous, and that’s not what the law is, and we would all be less safe.”

MGM argues the shooting qualifies as an act of terrorism and thus is covered under the SAFETY Act. The Department of Homeland Security has not weighed in one way or another on that question. What is clear is MGM wants to establish, first of all, that MGM can’t be sued for the shooting, and second that it especially can’t be sued in state or local courts.

HOW THE VICTIMS and FAMILIES OF LOVED ONES LOST FEEL?


JOYEETA BISWAS, Good Morning America …

“MGM Resorts files lawsuits against Las Vegas shooting victims in the effort to avoid
liability”

“It brings it all up again, and takes me right back to being helpless,” said Jason McMillan, who was paralyzed from the waist down in the attack.

“Hearing that I’m being sued — it’s not only insulting, it enrages me to think that this company can just try to skip out on their responsibilities and their liability for what happened.”

McMillan vowed not to back down in the fight against the company.

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PHOTO: Attorney Mark P. Robinson, right, representing shooting victims and family members who lost loved ones in the Oct, 1, 2017, Las Vegas shooting, talks about MGM's decision, at a news conference in Newport Beach, Calif., July 23, 2018. (Alex Gallardo/AP)

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“To blame the victims, to say it’s anyone else’s fault other than their own – it’s absurd. I can’t believe the audacity of them. They’re not going to get away with anything – We’ll keep this going, as long as it takes,” he added.”

The press conference was fraught with emotion, as survivors recounted details of what happened to them or their loved ones in the attack, and their painful journey towards recovery.

Joyce Shipp, 72, whose 50-year-old daughter Laura Shipp was killed in the shooting, said she was still learning to cope with the aftermath.

“I wasn’t at the concert but I live it every day. Every time we go outside we see Mandalay Bay. It’s hard to get that out of your head,” she said.

“The fact that [MGM is] trying to sue us — it’s outrageous,” she added. “That they would have the audacity to put me through that again — It’s like being kicked again to the ground.”

{MGM’S RESPONSE}?

In response to the press conference, MGM spokesperson Debra DeShong provided the following statement:

“It is heartbreaking to hear these personal accounts of an unspeakable tragedy. We grieve with all of the victims. No one wins from endless litigation and it will not change the fact that one person is responsible for this horrendous act of violence and he took his own life rather than face justice.” (Partial) 

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My Own Personal Opinion and Feelings?


Although I do agree with what the MGM spokesperson said about the shooter
“taking his own life rather than face justice,”

I still feel strongly that the MGM is just trying to escape taking ownership and accountability for what took place on their property! They checked in the shooter with NO Checking of His Bags which contained loads of firearms regardless if HE opened the window and started shooting at the victims below. 

MGM and its shareholders need to “do the right thing here” and drop these ridiculous lawsuits against the victims. You are only making more chaos and trauma for them and prolonging their healing. How about putting your feet in the loved one’s shoes and it was YOU who lost a loved one that night? I’m sure you’d be looking at this the same way as all the victims we lost and the feel the same way these families and survivors are feeling now …

PLEASE Visit to see the souls we have lost:
https://www.ktnv.com/news/photos-remembering-those-killed-in-las-vegas-mass-shooting#

As my thoughts and prayers are still with you! xoxo

~Catherine Lyon

Recovery Ramblings Of Child Abuse ~ Learning To Embrace & Share …

Hello Recovery Friends and Welcome New Visitors,

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I try to pride myself as a fair person. A person who always wants to get to the truth. And that is no different when we talk about sexual misconduct, and childhood trauma and abuse. I don’t think I have written any in-depth substance about my childhood sex abuse and trauma, as I’ve only begun to start opening up and sharing some of my past around this topic. The big reason for why? It is similar to the reason many rape victims don’t press charges of their rapists.

It’s because the Stigma around this issue has not really been fully addressed fully, nor really talked about. It’s like when rape victims decide it’s just not worth pressing charges against the accused, they are afraid, and may not want to appear in court or a trial against their rapist, Why? Because it seems our lawyers and court systems want to turn it around and blame the victim most times. The victim gets painted in such a negative light, that the women feel they have done something wrong, or were deserving of the rape, that’s why. I know I wouldn’t put myself through that either. And I felt such shame as a little girl about what was happening to me when I was sexually abused.

Our little minds just don’t understand.
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No, it’s not fair, but most of the time it seems to happen that way. I also felt that way in my adulthood when in therapy the very first time, when my pain and hurt came back with such force to haunt my present. I remember feeling those ‘ugly feelings from threats by my abuser’ ….

“If you tell anyone, they will think your telling lies, so no one will believe you anyway”.
“I will come back and hurt the people you love most”… “Besides, your dad is a good friend of mine, he won’t take your side, he’ll listen to me because your just a kid” …

Yes, they will threaten, or give you almost any excuse for you not to say a word. Promises of candy, ice cream, amusement park or arcade, anything. Because when your just a little girl, and you get confused, or not understand what to believe, makes you feel ugly. When you don’t know about how an abusers will groom you, and have not been taught that what he is doing to you is wrong.

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Bill Cosby's 'Late Show With David Letterman' appearance was canceled. © Ethan Miller via Getty Images Bill Cosby.
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So now in the headlines about rape & sexual assault allegations that happened a decade or more ago, have now resurfaced, with rumors flying around the media again about Actor & Comedian, Bill Cosby. Was he really America’s father in 80’s & 90’s? Or was he just another masked abuser? So it got me thinking of my own nightmarish past from childhood sex abuse as a little girl, and went on for 3 years. Here is what has floated around for sometime now about, America’s TV Dad, Bill Cosby.

“One of Cosby’s accusers, Barbara Bowman, leveled allegations of sexual assault against him in interviews and in an online column for the Washington Post. Bowman wrote that in 1985, she was 17 and an aspiring actress when Cosby “brainwashed me into viewing him as a father figure, and then assaulted me multiple times.” Now another woman came forward claiming Mr. Cosby raped her to, a model, back in the early 80’s.
Cosby, who was never criminally charged in any case, settled a civil suit in 2006 with another woman over an alleged incident two years before”, and this all seemed to happen on a radio show Bill Cosby was doing recently. He was asked about his past allegations, and had no comment.

Now I know there is a big difference between being sexually abused, and being sexually raped. Most times rape is a one time forced occurrence. Being sexually abused is usually more than a one time contact, and the abuser grooms the person being touched and abused inappropriately. But either way, both are wrong, it’s traumatizing, and should never happen.

Currently there are 80,000 reported cases of child sex abuse yearly, and we know that has to be a lot higher due to the unreported cases. Child sexual abuse can take place within the family, by a parent, step-parent, sibling or other relative; or outside the home, such as, by a friend, neighbor, child care person, teacher, or stranger. When sexual abuse has occurred, a child can develop a variety of distressing feelings, thoughts and behaviors.

I know this to be true because I have had many of those distressed feelings, thoughts and behaviors. It’s why I’m still having problems again with PTSD, and back in therapy from having nightmares again. Another fact I experienced, at 16 1/2, abused children are 25% more likely to experience teen pregnancy. For girls, the likelihood of teen pregnancy increases with each adverse childhood experience. That’s all I say about that.
I do know from personal experience, having been sexually abused, I feel it made me more interested in boys way before I needed to be in my late teens and into young adulthood.
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I also know it was some of the reasons my first couple relationships were with older men in my mid and late teens. I feel it was the ‘mixed up thinking’ from my years of abuse, that I was seeking that safe feeling I never got from my father when the abuse was happening. Also the unconditional love I never got all through my life from both my parents. No I don’t blame my parents for that. We just seek that out in our relationships. I felt that sexual acts was a natural part of a relationship, what men wanted, and all the girls did it. Not being raised, or told differently.

But through therapy, I learned it was not so. I learned that what happened to me was not my fault. But, even going through therapy, and trying to really process what happened to me, I still was having PTSD effects. And I know it played a part of me turning to addicted gambling, and using gambling to escape those feelings, to not think or feel all those ugly feelings when they kept coming back through the years. Then I started drinking heavy when I gambled as well. I could go days without drinking, but when I sat behind a slot machine, or video poker machine, I had to drink.

It seemed the combination of the feelings I got from both helped me forget all those nasty things that happened to me as a little girl in those dark closets, bathroom, or outside in the shed. So I kept gambling and doing it until I became addicted. And when I finally got help and treatment for those addictions, we peeled away the layers of crap, and it was gambling addiction that was my real problem. And some of the underlying issues for me turning to addiction was stemming from my childhood trauma and abuse. Not all of it, but it did contribute to my addiction, and mental/emotional disorders.

More Facts Of Childhood Sex Abuse:

A child who is the victim of prolonged sexual abuse usually develops low self-esteem, a feeling of worthlessness and an abnormal or distorted view of sex. The child may become withdrawn and mistrustful of adults, and can become suicidal.

Some children who have been sexually abused have difficulty relating to others except on sexual terms.

Mental Health Disorders, Addictions, & Related Issues:

  • Risk for intimate partner violence
  • Smoking & drinking at an early age
  • Depression
  • Suicide attempts
  • Alcoholism and alcohol abuse
  • Illicit drug abuse*Scary that I had problems with 5 out of the 6 listed. I was never a drug user*

In one study, 80% of 21-year-olds who reported childhood abuse met the criteria for at least one psychological disorder. No child is psychologically prepared to cope with repeated sexual stimulation. Even a two or three-year old, who cannot know the sexual activity is wrong, will develop problems resulting from the inability to cope with the overstimulation.
So you’re wondering why I happen to mention Mr. Cosby in all of this.

Well, my point is that abusers can come in many forms. Many can be actors, lawyers, policemen, doctors, dentists, or even a member of your own family or family friend. They can be well-respected people on our communities. They are not always a pedophile, or a person on a police list. And they are good at grooming the child they are interested in.
Yes, I know how disturbing this all sounds, but look, … if we don’t start talking this issue, talk more about this in an open forum, then those of us who have been effected may continue to feel shame, blame, guilt, then we think we did something to deserve the trauma that had happened to us. We feel we have no voice, or that no one cares.
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WE who are the victims, the abused, the scarred, the damaged, have a right for our voices to be heard! We need not hide in shame any longer. Just because this happened to me, stole some of my childhood, made me very distrusting, withdrawn, and yes attempted suicide twice in my adulthood, doesn’t mean I have to live as a victim any longer.
I damn well refuse too! And for those who have never been through this horrific experience? I say to you, “don’t judge”, “stop making me feel as if I am a damaged person” … We need to diminish the STIGMA around these issues once and for all.

So, become educated, become informed of the warning signs. Make sure parents, you talk to your young children about, “Stranger Danger,” and about inappropriate touching.
If we don’t teach our children that it’s OK to TELL, then you have a much better chance of knowing that it’s happening, and get them the help they need. That way they won’t be carrying this with them into adulthood.

National Child Sexual Abuse Helpline ~ Darkness to Light provides a toll-free number for individuals living in the United States who need local information and resources about sexual abuse. Any individual, child or adult who needs resources about sexual abuse can call the Helpline.

Darkness to Light

1-866-FOR-LIGHT (866-367-5444)

“Please, Lets Just Talk About It” ….

God Bless All,
Author, Catherine Townsend-Lyon
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